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Sticks And Stones

Posted March 16, 2017 by jim young in Lifestyle

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never break me.” – English Children’s Rhyme

Really? Being teased for having long hair is considered bullying?

Assemble the villagers, light the torches and pass out the pitchforks.

I guess I was bullied when I was young – by my sisters, my parents, my grandparents, my aunts and uncles, my friends – even my teachers.

If I had complained to my father about being bullied for having long hair, his advice would have been very simple and straightforward. “If you don’t like it, perhaps you should get it cut.”

Isn’t teasing just a normal part of growing up that helps teach us all how to deal with confrontation? Whatever happened to learning about “sticks and stones”?

Now don’t get me wrong. If anyone had threatened me with physical harm, as much as my father hated my long hair, he would have been at my side to defend me in a heartbeat.

On the other hand, if my teachers had decided to expel me from school for having long hair and I turned to my father for support, his answer would have been – “It’s your battle, you fight it.”

Dad had a great sense of when to step in and when to leave me to fight my own battles.

Growing up as a young man himself, my father was somewhat of a champion of the underdog and often came to the defense of his fellow classmates when the “teasing” crossed the line to become “bullying”.

In fact, when trying to explain to me why he enlisted in World War II, and put it into terms I would understand at a very impressionable age, Dad simply told me “Hitler was a bully that needed to be stopped.”

I don’t want to make light of bullying which is a serious problem in today’s world, but to suggest teasing is bullying IS making light of bullying.

And for the record I think Isaac Irvine’s conversation with his son Bodi was an example of excellent parenting.

But from Bodi’s response – it doesn’t seem the parenting was even required. He pretty much had things under control all on his own.

Sometimes the best thing we can do as parents, is let our children work things out for themselves.

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One Comment


    A saying that derives from the children s rhyme Sticks and stones may break my bones , but names can never hurt me . It s used as a reply to an insult, indicating that the insult has been registered as such, but did not have any effect. a game where one man puts the base of his penis next to another man s testicles, making it look as if said testicles are his own.

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